9/11 and it’s impact 12 years later

Some of you may have seen this in September.  Scanning over the last few months of work, I came across and was moved by what I wrote.  As a writer, reading old copy can only help you become a better writer.  It’s the way it works.  Reading over this, I nearly forgot I was reading my own words.  It’s worth a repost, albeit with a few grammar corrections and paragraph breaks.  Enjoy and really read this one.  It’s worth it.

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Every year, I look back at that day.   A day where as a country we found out our defensive abilities weren’t as strong as we thought.   A day where realism struck several homes and loss carried a whole new meaning.   Rolling Stones’ classic tune, “Paint It Black”, was brought to life in New York City.  A sunny Tuesday morning was painted black indeed and stayed that way for years.   I know where I was and what I felt, and its amazing to think that 12 years have passed since a few planes in the sky changed our country forever and set off a wave of connection, bad decisions, hot tempered wars, and a decade plus of abandonment.  I didn’t lose anybody close that day but I felt the impact of others who did.   What can you say to make it all seem like perfect sense?

As a human being, we all have the ability to feel the impact of death.   I see a list of names and instantly think of all the people who won’t be able to spend another minute with those people again.   Death is a son of a bitch because its final and often there are no clear cut goodbyes.  The lost souls from that day didn’t get the chance to call their loved ones.  Sure we have heard the tapes of ones who did but I always wonder how many people got voice mail as they sat in that burning building, doomed plane or dark staircase.  How many people simply had to hope they would be missed.  Imagine a funeral for them.   How many people would show up?  People who made a pact to lose weight, call their parents more, live it up were suddenly facing down imminent death.  All kinds of people were seeing the rest of their life flash before their eyes that day.  I do believe it happens before we die.  A carousel of clips from our life start to play and to the individual it will most likely seem incomplete.  Death is brutally final not just for the people who experience it but the hundreds of souls who had a connection to that victim.   Young people, parents, daughters, sons, sisters, uncles, brothers, friends, cousins and co-workers.   If anyone thought life couldn’t change in an instant, ask anyone from NYC about that day.   2,996 people went to bed on September 10th, 2001.   They didn’t get a chance to go to bed on September 11th, 2001.   That will never lose resonance with me.

9/11/01 has changed for me in the past 12 years.  I am a father and husband now.   When I awoke on that day in my dorm at Mizzou and saw the burning buildings, I was single and going through the motions of college.  I hadn’t met my wife yet.  I wasn’t tied to anything but unpredictability.  I walked to my Psychology class and they quickly sent us home to our dorms to engulf 1,000 different angles of those planes crashing into the towers, the constant updates, horrifying pictures and the buildings collapsing like a jinga stack.  People jumping from the towers.  Victims covered in ash.  Innocent bystanders acting like they have never seen severed body parts before or had the chance to smell burning flesh.  Survivors can probably be counted as victims from that day of chaos.  I watched it all.  I let it in.  Felt the emotions, anger and raging fury send shock waves through my body.  I didn’t have a one headed monster to get mad at yet.  We didn’t yet know Osama Bin Laden was the mastermind.  This wasn’t a movie with three neat acts.  The bad guy is presented and the good guys get him and normalcy is returned to the surface.   The bad guy didn’t get caught for nearly 10 years.   The good guys ended up losing over 46,000 souls if you count the related illnesses, loss in the war and so on.   The people who died that day were only the beginning.  Anyone who worked on the site, sucked in the smoke and horrible fumes, or spent time there looking for loved ones had their lungs damaged that day.   It was like coal mining if it involved finding dead bodies every 30 minutes.  Anyone who went to war after were victims as well.   I am all for starting a war when needed, but for some reason George W. Bush invaded Iraq instead of just going after Bin Laden, the man responsible.  We lost thousands of soldiers fighting a war many of those lost souls never understood nor did we.   I am not saying Obama would have done different its fair to say the toll from that day stretched out over years.   That’s change.

Now that I am a father, I think about it differently.  A lot differently. I can only imagine if I left one day to go to work and this happened and my son wouldn’t see me again.   Imagine how many fathers and mothers didn’t come home that day.  How much explaining had to be done to little kids, teenagers or older sons and daughters about what happened to their caretakers?  A shit ton.  A lot of words and tears.   I think about my wife Rachel not coming home and the impact that would have on my family.  I think about losing a family member too but when a loss affects your every day home, your inner circle of loved ones, that’s the scariest scenario known on this earth.  I don’t know what I’d do without my wife.  I don’t want to imagine staring down imminent death and wondering if I will never see my son again.  It’s horrifying and that is how I relate to those who were affected that day.   If you didn’t lose somebody, the event can still affect you.

In 2009, I went and saw the Dave Matthews Band at Wrigley Field.   It was harmless really.  I took a trip on the Mega Bus and stayed with my friend PJ.   Weeks later, after I got home, I would find out that a bomber was attempting to blow up that area on that very night.   He planted what he thought was a bomb right outside Wrigley Field and left, only to be detained by the FBI/CIA(I can’t remember exactly which) because he was set up.   Law enforcement gave him a different bomb, a fake one, because they were working undercover to take down this cell.  However, I imagine from time to time if that bomb was real and how that would impact lives around me.  I exited the building on the side the fake bomb was planted.  I wouldn’t have felt anything.  My son would have never been born.   This isn’t easy to write or for some of you to read but it’s in my head so here we go.  9/11 did this to us.  It made us painfully aware of forces outside of our control.   Every time a plane flies lower than normal, I look up.

I don’t think 9/11 was a conspiracy or a coup.  I don’t rule out the idea that the government may have ignored intel or looked the other way but I carry the belief that our country was caught with its pants down that day.   We were blindsided.  Defeated straight up by a smart, crafty mastermind who planned it for years.  People lose sleep and breath over convincing themselves that we weren’t simply attacked by an evil force that day.   I don’t think Bush had anything to do with it and I require evidence to change my opinion.   Buildings collapse with 80,000 gallons of jet fuel running down their legs.  It happened and it was committed by the most wanted man this country will ever know.   We were knocked down that day and of course when we got up, a lot of wild swings and emotions were thrown around.   Alliances were broken.  New fear was created.  Bonds were made.  And you know what, a lot of connection happened.   People did come together and help each other.  Odd couples became friends.

I believe to this day sports played a huge part in healing that city and as a whole, our country.   The Yankees winning emotional late inning games and going to the World Series.  Mike Piazza hitting that game winner at Shea on the night baseball came back.   Jack Buck’s tour de force speech at Busch.  When we are shaken by bad circumstances, we look to sports and movies as much as friends and family.   It’s an escape for the most tormented soul.   At our weakest, sometimes all we need is a game to watch or a movie to invest our emotions with.   Simplicity lies at the heart of therapy.  Just my take.

I always say this to people I know about what happened that day.   No matter the cause, terrorists or conspiracy, those 2,996 souls are never coming back.  Finality tromps cause and reason.  If it were a coup, those people are still dead.  If it was a simple act of terrorism, those people aren’t coming back.   No crime to solve.   All we can do is prevent it from happening again.   Prevent the new Freedom Tower and the fountains and memorial from being attacked.   The United States of America will be targeted for days.  Every day.   It’s our ability to prevent it that separates us from the grave.  Stop fighting about what happened that day and celebrate the men and women who sacrificed themselves then to save a life.   Remember the sacrifice that happens every day by the people serving in the armed forces.   The ones who serve thousands of miles from their homes so we can feel safe in our own.  I try to remember the first responders who went into the towers, pulled people out and didn’t think twice before running back into the buildings.   You could have told them the buildings were collapsing in 5 minutes, and they would tell you I can get somebody out in 4 minutes.   They are the true heroes.   Certain people become firefighters or cops and are kind of brave.   Others are willing to put everything on the line to save another.   That’s sacrifice.  The courage to run in when so many are running away.   That is what I try to remember on this day.

That’s all I got.  Keep living.  Respect the privilege that we have today.  Living is a privilege.  Death is a conclusion.  I’ll never forget what happened that day or the heroic deeds that defined it.  We aren’t perfect but I hold a belief that to this day there are more good people than bad.   I could be wrong.  I could be right.  I will never know.  I do know that when Vinny gets older I’m taking him to NYC to show him what happened.  Let him see the thousands of names on the memorial fountains.   Describe to him what real courage is.  Those are questions I will be ready to answer.   As a son, father, brother, and husband, that is my right.

Sincerely,

Dan Buffa

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Author: D. Buffa

A regular guy who feels a journalistic hunger to tell the news. I blog because its wired into my brain to write what I think in print. I offer an opinion. A solo tour here. Take regular stories and offer my spin on them. Sports, film, television, music, fatherhood, culture, food, and so on. Commentary on everything. A St. Louis native and Little Rock resident who wants to write just to keep the hands fresh and ready.

7 thoughts on “9/11 and it’s impact 12 years later”

  1. Dan.
    Wow.
    I’m from New York. Still Here. Can’t leave. Just can’t. People here, in Long Island where I’m from..,the second we heard and we all began collectively suffering…part of it was the fear, so tangible I will never forget it….the fear of who’s names we were about to hear listed off.

    There was a silence and a hope those next few days. I remember the waiting and the searching for loved ones. And the news of who had not been heard from.

    I was a bartender at the time. Working in long island. Most people where I’m from, there parents work in the city. We commute there. My friends that passed on that day, we were in grade school together…they went to college and got jobs in the city, worked downtown in the financial district in the World Trade Center and didn’t make it out.
    That just one story, I mean the people I knew who lost entire family’s. Became parents to their bothers children because both parent worked there. I mean this was the news that started coming out. And it was unthinkable man.
    Just unreal.
    I went to work at the bar that Thursday, 2 days later.

    I mean you just still didn’t know if another attack was coming. You just didnt know man.

    The feeling of love between all the patrons that night…a lot of whom were friend of mine since grade school also.
    We were all asking each other… “are you ok?” “Is everyone ok with you?”

    And the responses. The wakes on top of wakes.

    Just fucking awful man.

    Over here. We all knew someone. And when the smoke began to clear and we slowly started to realize that another Attack wasn’t coming, which took days and days and days to feel, then the shock turned to anger sadness confusion and desire for revenge.

    Fear for my friends who hailed from the Middle East, stories of people being attacked for being foreign.

    But those mindless acts, blind rage….
    They were all eclipsed by this feeling, in my memory and to me this is…by this feeling of sorrow and compassion.

    There was a spirit I saw in New Yorkers that day. I alway knew in my heart it was there. I’m a spiritual guy, I believe in the soul and the spirit and that we are in our most natural forms…when we are stripped of out flesh and we die out of this life we were born into….I believe we are pure love.
    That we go back home, and that love and compassion is what I saw SHINE through in New Yorkers and New Jersey natives after that awdul day.

    People helped each other. Like you so beautifully wrote, the firefighters and police officers. The civilians that stood up and helped out there brothers and sisters.

    The ash and darkness blotted out skin color. New York is diverse…but then even more so.

    When I read your words…I feel a real love and conscious effort to understand the pain from the inside out, and I have to say I think it’s just beautiful and well written and profound and considerate.

    I was honored to post your words. That you are reposting this, in my eyes, really says to me how aware of it you still are (some people forget…to me that’s and many of us here, that’s not possible) and I think it’s so important that you did.

    Great great great piece dan. And thank you so much for writing and sharing it. For spreading such a wonderful sentiment.

    That day just sucked.

    1. First, thank you Wes. I appreciate the kind words. I really do. Hearing a piece of mine touched someone like it did for you is why I do this in the first place. I couldn’t have dreamed of you opening up like this to me after I wrote it but that is exactly why I do it. I am a freelance writer who doesn’t get paid for his words. I do it because I need to, it’s in my blood and bones to express myself through the written word. Hearing this from you made my month. Early Christmas present.

      1. Thanks Dan. It’s important to support each other, I believe that. But reading your words threw me back I’m time. I started thinking of things I haven’t thought about for years…and something’s I think about twice a week still.

        There are layers to what you wrote, and a different viewpoints and angles…but you always come back to honoring the lost souls and that to me us so core and important man. It’s exactly what I believe also…and I think you put words to a lot of the things I feel..,in addition to giving some new perspective on the Tragedy.

        It’s a Wonderful and Thought provoking piece Dan. I’m really glad to have read it.

        Writing is defiantly and clearly in your blood brother.

  2. It was my pleasure to relive what that day did for me but to hear you open up like you did heightens what I do when I sit down to write. I aim for the heart and soul every time and a big reason I do it is to relieve the noise in my head. With your response here, it just makes me want to keep firing away at what feels important to me. Thanks.

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